Friday, June 5, 2020

And then a video surfaced of a black man having police called on him by the grand wizard of the Ku Klux Karens


Three times, during my high school and college years, I had this experience: 

I was walking around town with a friend, in broad daylight, both of us chatting and laughing and clearly enjoying each other's company. And then a police car pulls up to the curb and the cop rolls his window down to ask me if I'm ok. 

Extremely confused--the first time--I was like, "......yeah?"

Not until he drove away did I fully comprehend what had just happened. 

My friend was black. 

The second time, I got mad. 

Same exact scene--me and my friend/old roommate trying to enjoy a nice day walking around Philly, cop pulls up, and asks me if I'm ok. 

I was pissed. I responded, "Am I ok? Why do you ask?" I paused for half a second to give him the impression that I expected an answer, but then answered for him, indicating my friend. "It's because he's black, right?"

The cop went immediately on the defensively offensive, muttering BS about "just doing my job" and this whole time my poor friend was getting more and more distraught until he was basically cowering behind me and begging ME to stop, to just leave it alone, he didn't want trouble with a white cop because--SHOCKING, I know--this wasn't his first such run-in with a cop. 

So I told the cop to piss off in the politest way I could manage. The third time this happened, it was with that same friend. Out of respect for his feelings and his desire to not get shot for no reason other than being black while hanging out with a white woman, I tried to keep my temper in check, although I made it very clear to that cop that he ought to reconsider his profession because he clearly had some issues with people of colour. 


I have more stories similar to this than I care to remember. But here's one that still sticks out in my memory:


A few years ago, one Sunday after church, Lil Bro#2 and I took my friend's 2 daughters junk shop-hopping for the afternoon, as friend had looked very tired and had admitted to having a rough week at work. So I said we'll entertain the girls, grab them some dinner, and bring them home later so you can have the day to yourself.

(This was before the girls entered their teens, and thus still viewed me as incredibly cool and not just Old.) 

Lil Bro#2 and I first stopped at one of our favourite junk shops, and told the girls to let us know if they found anything they liked. One found a doll bed the perfect size for her American Girl Doll, the other found a 35mm camera that appeared in good condition, so we spent a grand total of $10 and both girls claimed they had an amazing time with us. 

A couple weeks later, Lil Bro#2 and I returned to that same shop. We'd been going there for the better part of a year at that point, and were pretty friendly with the two guys who owned the place, so we usually ended up chatting with them for a bit. 

That particular day, one of the owner asked me, "Where's your menagerie? That some kind of inner city outreach thing?"

His exact words. I will never ever forget them. (Did I mention my friend and her daughters are black?)

I had a moment of stunned silence. Then said something along the lines of "those are my friend's kids, they live in Warwick."

We did not return to that shop again, and a few weeks later it ended up getting sold. Now it's a combo farmer's market and junk shop I think. Good riddance.


BLACK

LIVES

MATTER

Yes, in a perfect world, all lives matter. But this is not about that. This is about a very very real problem. So as far as I'm concerned, anyone touting #allivesmatter can SHOVE IT up their ass. 

Now some more bad news:







9 comments:

  1. Too sensitive a topic to comment much. I have opinions but not experience. But I don't sort out who I pray for by skin color. Although I am forced at times to scold myself for unbidden thoughts.

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  2. Unbelievable, except it is. I work with Aboriginal people in a max. security prison and they tell me a lot of similar stories. I just don't get how people can decide one bunch of people has more worth than another based on a random spin of the colour wheel.

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  3. Man, that sucks. Carol is black and 80 years old. We don't get hassled even when I call her "mama." My friend Misha is Puerto Rican. No problem with that either. Do you think the cop felt "concerned" because you were with a man?

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. I always had more guy friends than girl friends. Not once did a cop ever attempt to intervene if I was hanging out with one of my white guy friends. Except that time a cop broke up one of our gatherings in the woods. He let the guys go, and then attempted to coerce myself and the three girls with me into either giving him a blow job or screwing him, or he would drag us the station and charge us with drug possession, even though we had nothing on us.

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  4. Black lives matter no more or no less then any other life

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    1. In a utopian society, yes.

      Let's say you live on a road with 20 houses, most of them panted white, a few painted red and yellow and blue and maybe two painted brown. One of the brown ones catches fire. The fire brigade shows up and begins spraying water on all of the houses, instead of focusing their attention on the house that is ACTUALLY ON FIRE.

      When the response to Black Lives matter is "but all lives matter," it shows a blatant disregard for the house that is currently, right now, on fire.

      OF COURSE all lives matter. Which is why, when a particular set of lives cry out for help because of a very real danger and a very real issue, we need to recognize that there are far too many people out there who hide behind #alllivesmatter because they refuse to see reality.

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  5. These are important stories to tell, if for nothing more than to demonstrate the day-in day-out infusion of racism into innocent lives. If white people had to live with this kind of scrutiny as they go about their ordinary lives, the White House would have been awash in tiki torches decades ago.

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  6. Those are some sad stories :( i really hope something changes after these movements

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  7. What's sad is I'm only now getting ACAB. Sometimes I work at the continuation high school, and I dismissed the students' various comments about cops hassling them. I was so stupid. Live and learn, right?

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