Some sneak-peek photos of the apartment (I'm not done decorating, and I am still in desperate need of more furniture):
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| the kitchen and living room, and the candles in my fireplace |
And a close-up of the fireplace, because I rule:
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....I wasn't going to post this because I was kind of ranty and ravey when I wrote it, but I feel the need to say it.
Recently someone insisted on getting into an argument with
me about abortion.
I don't like arguing. I especially do not like arguing about
that kind of subject matter (where everyone has a very strong opinion and an
equally strong belief that their opinion is infallible).
I am not pro-choice. I am not pro-life either. I am
pro-we-should-never-have-had-the-need-to-invent-this-in-the-first-place.
But of course it's a bit late for that.
I guess I am also both pro-choice and pro-life. There are very valid points in the arguments for and against them, and I have seen
extreme cases on both sides.
I know someone who was raped and had an abortion and felt
totally fine with it and has since also gotten past the rape. I know someone
else whose mother almost aborted him after she was raped, but changed her mind
at the last minute, and his father (his mother's husband) has always treated
him like a son and they have a great relationship, and his mom also managed to
heal from it and accept him as her son and not her rapist's son.
I know someone who had an abortion because she had to choose
between treating her leukemia or having a baby, and she ended up beating the
leukemia and now many years later has 3 happy, healthy children and is still
healthy herself. One of my best friends (since we were babies)
is the
daughter of a woman who was encouraged by all her doctors to get an abortion so
she could begin chemo for her breast cancer. She refused, because she wanted
her baby. She died only a few months after my friend was born.
I know several people who have had multiple abortions
because they refuse to use condoms or go on the pill (this makes me so angry I
can barely form words). I know a girl
who had an abortion because a pregnancy would have disrupted her plans of
joining the army (which was the only way she would be able to go to college)
and even though she had been totally ok with it and had considered all her
options, she ended up sinking into an epic depression afterwards.
I had a
friend in college who got pregnant and her family kept telling her abortion was
murder, but she was manic-depressive (among several other things), in an
abusive relationship, and anyone who knew her could have told you that she would not have been mentally
able to carry a child for 9 months and then give it away. She was already
suicidal. So she had the abortion, and now over ten years later she is in a
healthy relationship with a nice guy, and seems to be managing her emotional
issues pretty well.
There isn't one right answer to this debate.
Do I want kids? F*CK NO. But could I have an abortion?
Probably not. WHICH IS WHY WE USE CONDOMS AND BIRTH CONTROL PILLS. Or in some
cases, the morning after pill, because accidents do happen, and there really is
no need for them to turn into accidents that lead to you begging Lil Sis to push you down the stairs several months later.
In the cases of things like treating serious illnesses, that
is no one's choice except the woman who MIGHT DIE if she does not have the
abortion.
And as for rape cases, it is my opinion that anyone who has not been
raped should shut the fuck up.
Ok I'm done.
